Divorce hurts. But the hurt will not last forever.

If you’ve clicked on this post, I know you’re probably going through the wringer. Dealing with our parents divorce is one of the hardest things we’ll have to face. And I am so excited to speak some hope into your home today.

This blog post goes with my new YouTube video: What I’d Tell Myself After My Parents Divorce

I absolutely love my parents. But their divorce was without a doubt, the hardest obstacle I’ve had to face. It was the biggest test of faith. It was the most difficult season. And there’s so much I’d tell my younger self when she first received that painful news.

Without further ado, here are 10 things I’d tell myself after my parents divorce:

10 things I’d tell myself after my parents divorce:

1. It’s going to hurt. You’re going to feel the pain both physically and emotionally. But the pain will not last forever, I promise.
2. You’re going to think that God doesn’t care. But He is right there with you, grieving the loss as well.
3. You’re going to be angry. Each day, it will be different who you are angry with. But eventually, you’ll dig deep and find forgiveness.
4. You’ll forget about your faith for awhile. You’ll try a lot of different things to help you with the pain, but then you’ll find that nothing could satisfy you like God.
5. You eventually will have a new normal. You’ll have new relationships with both parents, and you’ll even get closer to both of them through this.
6. You’re not going to believe in love for awhile. You’ll think because your parents divorced, you’re bound to be another statistic. You’ll have to fight this lie with the Word. And then, you’ll start to hope in love once again.
7. And even though it might be hard to believe, you’re going to be okay. Keep holding on.
8. Your mess will eventually be a message, and this test will be a testimony.
9. Keep enduring this, be patient. It will get easier.
10. God is going to work this all out for the good (Romans 8:28). That’s His promise. Your pain will not go to waste, and one day He will pick up all the broken pieces and make them into a beautiful masterpiece.

Hold onto hope.

I know it might not seem like it, but you’re going to be okay. When you welcome God into your grief, seek support from a counselor, open up to her friends, & just take it day by day – I promise you will make it to the other side in one piece.
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Because this will wreck you, it’ll actually make you stronger. It will make you wiser. And most of all, it will make you know God and His love for you so much more. This will not break you, my friend. It will just make you more of the person God always destined for you to be.

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